Traditions: Plan or Pass
In my last post about wedding activities, I mentioned that Mr. Rooster and I will probably be skipping some of the usual wedding traditions, like tossing the bouquet and cutting the cake. I thought it would be a good idea (for both your entertainment and my need to get things down on paper) to share a bit about what traditions we’re keeping, which we’re throwing out, and which we’re on the fence about.
First dance & father-daughter and mother-son dances. I think the first dance and family dances are such special and tender moments. I’m not thrilled about having everybody’s eyes on me, but I am excited to share those special moments with my dad and husband.
Toasts. Ok, y’all. Roo and I love wedding toasts. The only thing we love more than wedding toasts is comedy. I can’t wait to sit back and hear funny stories from our best man and maid of honor. It’s like your own personal roast. Do your worst, wedding party!
Bachelor and bachelorette parties. I love me a themed party, and I love any excuse to get my best girls together for a night out. My ‘maids already know that I don’t want a big pink phallic bash, but I do want to celebrate together.
Not seeing each other until the ceremony. Here’s the thing, I’m not a laid-back person, but Roo really is. We balance each other that way. Whenever I wrack my brain stressing out about this stupid thing or that stupid thing, Mr. Rooster is the one who calms me down and lets me catch my breath. I would probably wreck myself if we spent our wedding day apart from each other for most of it. Plus, it’s our wedding day! I want to hang out with my almost-husband! So we will probably spend the night before together in our bridal suite, get ready separately, then enjoy a first look sometime that afternoon.
Bouquet toss. Custom states that the girl who catches the bouquet will be the next to marry. I really do love this fun tradition, but a huge majority of our guests are already married. So I’ll be throwing to, like, three girls. How about I just take a quiet moment to give them a flower from my bouquet and say “get married whenever the hell you want to”?
Garter toss. Roo going up my dress in front of everyone we know? No thank you. Although I love seeing garter traditions at other weddings, the thought of us doing it makes me terribly uncomfortable. Instead, we’re replacing it with our own thing: We’ll sign and hang up Roo’s wedding tie on our brewery venue’s tie wall at the end of the night.
Veil. I reserve the right to change my mind on this, but I think I’m going to nix the veil. I don’t need one to feel “bridal” (whatever that means), and I think it will just get in the way. Besides, it will be tough to find one that matches since I’m not doing…
The white dress. Probably. In a story too long to share in a bullet, I bought two wedding dresses for a fraction of what most people spend on one. One of the dresses is white, and one is a pale pewter gray. I love them both, so I change my mind about which to wear every day. But more and more, I’m definitely leaning towards the gray one.
We’re…. Not Really Sure:
Cake cutting. I want to do this. I think. But we might opt for small sweet bites and not even have a cake, so who knows. I’ll be fine if it happens, and fine if it doesn’t. As long as Roo doesn’t smash cake in my face, I’m happy (you hear that, honey? NO CAKE SMASH).
What traditions are you sticking to?